Have you ever been inspired to change or improve an aspect of your life, thinking THIS is it, this time I'm going to stick with it!...Only to find yourself unmotivated and disheartened 2 weeks later? So you berate yourself, telling yourself you have no self-control, you're rubbish at everything, you should just give up!
If you can relate to this situation, I would like to introduce a different approach to habit change - one that feels caring, motivating, and empowering. This approach is: self-compassion.
Self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff suggests that the top reason people provide for why they aren’t more self-compassionate is the fear of being too easy on themselves - "Without constant self-criticism to spur myself on, won’t I just skip work, eat three tubs of ice cream and watch Oprah reruns all day?" In others words, isn’t